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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique: an ICF accredited (PCC) grief and trauma coach, and coach supervisor. My work is centred around supporting individuals through their healing and growth.
My specialist areas are grief, trauma, anxiety, depression, addiction, sense of Self (identity), boundaries and confidence. My modes of coaching are somatic (i.e. embodied awareness) and transformational (i.e. a focus on attitudes, values, beliefs, behaviours, etc.).
I have particular interests in social sciences and human-centred disciplines, including psychology, psycholinguistics, sociology, spirituality and philosophy.
I live in London, UK with my son (who is also blessed with the awesomeness that is hyphenated first names!).
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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique – an ICF accredited coach and coach supervisor – and these are my passing thoughts.
Our body is primarily functional. And its primary function is to keep us alive.
We are continually scanning for danger and safety.
Orientation happens when our body mobilises its resources to restore our nervous system back to a state of equilibrium or balance from the perceived or real danger warning to signalling safety.
For many, especially those with unresolved trauma, this may be neurobiologically and somatically challenging, and may activate incomplete fight, flight, freeze responses.
Some indicators of safety and danger are commonly experienced, and others are unique to our personal experiences.
Here are some examples of indicators of danger:
Here are some examples of indicators of safety:
Throughout our healing journey, it’s paramount that we can access safety, externally and internally. For example, it’s not advisable to sit with triggering emotions if we do not yet have sufficient inner resources to anchor ourselves back into safety, a ventral vagal state, or our window of tolerance. Nor is it helpful to be in environments or around individuals that may cause re-wounding or retraumatisation.
We can become conscious of our orienting responses by anchoring into the here and now, tracking our inner landscape and mindfully balancing our thoughts and physiological responses.
It’s not enough to tell ourselves that we are safe. We must show our body that we are safe.
I have a 3-part question for you this week:
Speak to you next week. Until then, be well.