Number 5. Comparison
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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique – an ICF accredited coach and coach supervisor – and these are my passing thoughts.
A quick, courteous note to say thank you for bearing with me last week. I caught a cold and was honouring my body’s need for rest and recovery.
Let’s get into this week’s episode:
There are two types of shame: healthy shame and toxic shame.
Healthy shame keeps us humble and our moral compass in check.
Toxic shame is deep cut; we disown ourself and maintain a guardedness.
This type of shame says:
We develop a sense of Self through the relationships we have with others.
Authority figures during our developmental years – such as caregivers, teachers, religious leaders, elders in our family – play an influential part in the shame we might carry into adulthood.
Many labels that are placed onto us, ignite a sense of shame. For example, labels related to our appearance, personality, behaviour, thinking, or the way we see the world.
Here are some instances where shame may be ignited:
These situations can teach us a lot about our deepest, rawest wounds. If and when we’re ready to delve deeper, we may even be able to discover their origins and begin to heal them.
My question for you this week is:
Thinking back to the last time you felt shame, what activated this emotion for you?
Speak to you next week. Until then, be well.