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EPISODE 36: ARE YOU IN SERVICE OR SERVITUDE? | PASSING THOUGHTS PODCAST | rbccmnq

Rebecca-Monique Episode 36

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​​Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique, an ICF accredited coach and coach supervisor, and these are my passing thoughts. 

This week’s question is in the episode title: Are you in service or servitude? 

Here are some examples of how both states might show up for us:

Service says...

I have a full cup and what overflows I offer to others.

Servitude says... 

Depleted is my cup. It’s rarely replenished .

Service says... 

My work, my efforts, the outcomes are pleasing and enriching to me and those I support. Reciprocity resides here. 

Servitude says...

My work, my efforts and outcomes are solely for the satisfaction and benefit of others. One-way or the high-way. 

Service says...

I effectively practice and uphold boundaries. I know what is mine; the edges of where I begin and where I end. 

Servitude says ...

I have little to no boundaries. I am enmeshed and embroiled. I carry other people’s stuff around as if it were my own. 

Service says...

I actively, intentionally and consciously interact with myself, others and the world around me. I co-create. I am human. 

Servitude says...

I don’t think, I just do. I operate on autopilot. I am a robot. 

Service says... 

Pace and flow

Servitude says...

Speed and burnout

Service says... 

Rest is not something I have to earn; it’s a non-negotiable. 

Servitude says...

I’ll rest only when I’m done, but I’m never really done. 

Service says... 

I am empowered and free

Servitude says... 

What shackles? 

So to hone in on this week’s question, I specifically invite you to consider where you might be operating from a place of servitude – reflect on your relationships with your family, friends, partner, colleagues. What are your indicators and what would service look like practically? 

Speak to you next week. Until then, be well.