PASSING THOUGHTS
PASSING THOUGHTS with Rebecca-Monique is a soul-led podcast exploring the nuanced landscapes of loss and grief, trauma, inner healing, race, and identity.
Hosted by Rebecca-Monique—an ICF accredited grief and trauma coach, coach supervisor, and storyteller—each episode offers deep, reflective dives that blend personal insight with professional wisdom.
With compassion and clarity, Rebecca-Monique unpacks the layered truths of human experience, inviting listeners to feel informed, inspired, and affirmed. Expect rich conversations, powerful coaching prompts, and space to come home to yourself—again and again.
These are not just passing thoughts, but sacred pauses: where story meets reflection, and healing begins.
Soulful deep dives. Rooted reflections. Gentle truths for the journey.
PASSING THOUGHTS
EPISODE 67: THE 3 FRIENDS YOU NEED | PASSING THOUGHTS PODCAST | rbccmnq
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"One who walks ahead who we look up to and follow"
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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique: an ICF accredited (PCC) grief and trauma coach, and coach supervisor. My work is centred around supporting individuals through their healing and growth.
My specialist areas are grief, trauma, anxiety, depression, addiction, sense of Self (identity), boundaries and confidence. My modes of coaching are somatic (i.e. embodied awareness) and transformational (i.e. a focus on attitudes, values, beliefs, behaviours, etc.).
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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique – an ICF accredited coach and coach supervisor – and these are my passing thoughts.
Michelle Obama was recently quoted saying:
“We should always have three friends in our lives: one who walks ahead who we look up to and follow; one who walks beside us who is with us every step of our journey; and then one who we reach back for and bring along after we’ve cleared the way.”
This composition encourages us to recognise our place in a bigger relational ecosystem.
Learning from those who came before, instills faith on our path and awakens our potential.
The consistency and continuity the friend beside us provides helps us stay connected and feel less alone or lonely.
Paying it forward with the friend we reach back for gives us an opportunity to step into our wisdom and contribute to the advancement of the collective.
Many of us are fortunate to have one true friend, let alone three.
Of the friends you have, be sure to include yourself. Become the friends you wish you had. Be your own best friend.
From another perspective, we can look at the friend who walks ahead as our future Self; an even more evolved version of ourself, cheering us on, lovingly guiding us; conspiring with us for our greatest good.
We can see the friend who walks beside us as our current Self, doing the inner work, actively learning and becoming more ourself day by day.
And the friend we reach back for as our past Self who we can compassionately sit with and console, as well as thank for doing the best they could with the level of consciousness they had at the time.
Here are just three ways you can be a friend to yourself today:
- Check in on your needs: What do you need to give yourself right now? Comfort, connection, ease, care, rest, nourishment, movement?
- Integrate play: What’s something you’ll do for you that’s purely for fun, or your own enjoyment and pleasure?
- Appreciate yourself: When was the last time you celebrated yourself and your wins (big and small)? How will you celebrate yourself today?
Here’s my question for you this week:
Friends see qualities in us that we tend not to recognise in ourselves. What’s one of your admired qualities that makes you glow in the world?
Speak to you next week. Until then, be well.