PASSING THOUGHTS
PASSING THOUGHTS with Rebecca-Monique is a soul-led podcast exploring the nuanced landscapes of loss and grief, trauma, inner healing, race, and identity.
Hosted by Rebecca-Monique—an ICF accredited grief and trauma coach, coach supervisor, and storyteller—each episode offers deep, reflective dives that blend personal insight with professional wisdom.
With compassion and clarity, Rebecca-Monique unpacks the layered truths of human experience, inviting listeners to feel informed, inspired, and affirmed. Expect rich conversations, powerful coaching prompts, and space to come home to yourself—again and again.
These are not just passing thoughts, but sacred pauses: where story meets reflection, and healing begins.
Soulful deep dives. Rooted reflections. Gentle truths for the journey.
PASSING THOUGHTS
EPISODE 73: HOW TO MAP WHERE WE ARE IN OUR JOURNEY | PASSING THOUGHTS PODCAST | rbccmnq
Conscious incompetence...
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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique: an ICF accredited (PCC) grief and trauma coach, and coach supervisor. My work is centred around supporting individuals through their healing and growth.
My specialist areas are grief, trauma, anxiety, depression, addiction, sense of Self (identity), boundaries and confidence. My modes of coaching are somatic (i.e. embodied awareness) and transformational (i.e. a focus on attitudes, values, beliefs, behaviours, etc.).
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I live in London, UK with my son (who is also blessed with the awesomeness that is hyphenated first names!).
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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique – an ICF accredited coach and coach supervisor – and these are my passing thoughts.
Whether you're learning a new skill, have become a parent for the first time, or transitioning into a new role, remember that it takes time. There's layers to growth.
Noel Burch’s conscious competence framework is useful in helping us map where we are in our learning and development when acquiring a new skill.
The framework consists of 4 stages:
- Unconscious incompetence - where we’re unaware of what we don’t know and we may not even know we need to know it.
- Conscious incompetence - here, we’re in the process of learning a new skill and are keenly aware of our current lack of skill
- Conscious competence - where we trust our ability to carry out the skill but still require some thought on what we do and how we do it .
- Unconscious competence - this is where performing the skill becomes so intuitive that we give it very little to no thought.
Just like learning to drive a car, we start off with poor coordination and lack of awareness; fast forward years after passing our test and driving regularly, we’re able to safely manoeuvre the vehicle with ease and grace.
A similar tool is the three-tier spiritual concept of understanding, innerstanding and overstanding.
Understanding is grasping basic information. Innerstanding is the application of information through first-hand experience. Overstanding is being omniscient to the ins and outs, and all the varying perspectives of the experience.
I’m feeling particularly generous with the reflection prompts this week, so here are four of them:
Think of a skill or area of life that you’re developing
Where do you currently sit on either framework?
What’s required of you to move to the next stage?
What can you do to feel comfortable with where you're at in each stage?
What will you do to track and celebrate your progress?
Speak to you next week. Until then, be well.