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EPISODE 76: THIS TYPE OF THINKING MAKES US FEEL 'LESS THAN'. HERE'S HOW TO INTERRUPT THE PATTERN. | PASSING THOUGHTS PODCAST | rbccmnq

July 09, 2023 • Rebecca-Monique • Episode 76

'X' is so much better...

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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique – an ICF accredited coach and coach supervisor – and these are my passing thoughts.

X has more..
X is less…
X is becoming worse
X is so much better
I’m the least…
X has the most…

In psychology, these are examples of cognitive distortions known as comparative deletions.

When we compare a subject, level or standard, we run the risk of either minimising or magnifying situations.

Comparison is indeed the thief of joy.

Whether we feel behind in life, not good enough, we can challenge our perceptions by asking questions such as:

What or who am I comparing this to?
Where does this sit on a scale of 1-10?
How much better/ worse/ less/ more?
What sits above or below this?
How do I know this is true or false?
What, from my past experiences, might have led me to believe this?
How am I directly affected by this?
What else might be going on for me?
What’s the real issue am I trying to address?
What do I need?

My question for you this week is, what would it feel like to fully accept and embrace yourself, exactly as you are in this moment?

Speak to you next week, until then, be well.