PASSING THOUGHTS

EPISODE 79: THE DIFFERENT WAYS WE EXPERIENCE REGRET | PASSING THOUGHTS PODCAST | rbccmnq

• Rebecca-Monique • Episode 79

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Number 4. Connection regret. 
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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique: an ICF accredited (PCC) grief and trauma coach, and coach supervisor. My work is centred around supporting individuals through their healing and growth. 

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Hi, I’m Rebecca-Monique – an ICF accredited coach and coach supervisor – and these are my passing thoughts.

We experience regret when we blame ourselves for a less than favourable outcome. 

Author of The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward, Daniel Pink states that regret is “healthy and universal; an integral part of being human”. 

In his book, he explores four categories of regret. Each can be placed into the  bucket of either action or inaction. 

  • Number one is Foundational regrets – these are choices that would have brought more stability and security later in life for example, saving or going down a particular educational or career route.  
  • Boldness Regrets – these are behaviours that required aggressive action. They could have been opportunities missed maybe due to lack of confidence or fear of rejection, for example. 
  • Third is Moral Regret – This is where our actions and behaviours were misaligned with our values and principles. 
  • The fourth type of regret is Connection regret – these are relationships we didn’t maximise or adequately nurture.  

My question for you this week is:

What has your most recent ‘shoulda woulda coulda’ taught you about yourself?  

Speak to you next week. Until then, be well.